tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2448752251053894818.post875296922628498686..comments2024-02-09T06:24:16.626+00:00Comments on upside down in cloud: hiddener genderDru Marlandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03697874363783821382noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2448752251053894818.post-62346260307217856422010-10-29T01:09:05.986+01:002010-10-29T01:09:05.986+01:00Echoing Dana Andra and Wanda Sykes, "I'm ...Echoing Dana Andra and Wanda Sykes, "I'm a be me!"larry whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05659637420532771765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2448752251053894818.post-83838110278268195282010-09-29T07:59:41.294+01:002010-09-29T07:59:41.294+01:00-oh, and hi, Halle!-oh, and hi, Halle!Dru Marlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03697874363783821382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2448752251053894818.post-81550567229159114562010-09-29T07:40:40.206+01:002010-09-29T07:40:40.206+01:00I skimmed the book in Amazon's 'look insid...I skimmed the book in Amazon's 'look inside', Tasha; it seems well written, and may be enjoyable. Anyway, book on order!<br /><br />I think we're all in agreement, really- it's what we are because it works... I don't worry about the questions any more, as it's a bit late in the day :-) -and it doesn't seem particularly important. But I am chiefly concerned about the distortion of what Cordelia says to serve the agenda of those ideologues who seem to object to trans existence...Dru Marlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03697874363783821382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2448752251053894818.post-81781657593832321312010-09-27T20:42:28.025+01:002010-09-27T20:42:28.025+01:00I couldn't answer that question, so why should...I couldn't answer that question, so why should anyone else be expected too.Anjihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02562210585479814093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2448752251053894818.post-12808536186481232612010-09-27T13:31:04.687+01:002010-09-27T13:31:04.687+01:00Sorry! Had to make a correction.
My earliest awa...Sorry! Had to make a correction.<br /><br />My earliest awareness of gender and what it meant was not understanding why there had to be "rules" for what made you a boy and what made you a girl. Body parts aside, these rules always seemed so limiting and arbitrary. I felt more like a girl, but I wanted to do certain boy things, too. But in feeling like a girl, I wasn't necessarily interested in a lot of the things girls were supposed to be interested in. None of it made any sense, so I started very early on feeling that rules like these were pointless, and caring about what people thought or how they perceived me was just too boring to think about. I decided to just be me. Whoever that was. "Me" was simply the sum total of everything that was inside me, emotionally and intellectually. I only wish I could have realized how much of a girl I really am, much earlier in life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2448752251053894818.post-43787630975410167542010-09-27T13:26:11.826+01:002010-09-27T13:26:11.826+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2448752251053894818.post-7153636215106836872010-09-27T13:12:08.770+01:002010-09-27T13:12:08.770+01:00Headaches cannot be contagious, and so it must be ...Headaches cannot be contagious, and so it must be the subject, and yet, I cannot resist wading in here with a rant.<br /><br />Men and Women of all description, of all ages need to be freed from the gender-nonsense that has been accepted for way too long.<br /><br />As has been suggested, whatever gender I am, I am a _(fill the blank)____ who does these things that I do for a living, or enjoy doing or whatever. Societal stereotype says men do this, and women do that, and we can be part of the group, mostly female who can and should change the picture.<br /><br />Do we really need an expert opinion to support that? If so, let's get one. If it is about societal expectations, let's demonstrate that they are unreasonable by living authentically and letting others have their problems.<br /><br />If I like pink bunnies and my Harley-Davidson too and identify as a Wookie, then whose business is it?<br /><br />Rant ends; time for some ibuprofen.<br /><br />Thanks Dru, this is obviously a really good post!<br /><br />HalleHallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2448752251053894818.post-87043724929305936492010-09-27T13:05:56.930+01:002010-09-27T13:05:56.930+01:00As strong as the feelings were that I should be a ...As strong as the feelings were that I should be a girl the feeling that I CAN"T POSSIBLY BE A BOY, CAN'T GROW INTO A MAN, WOULD RATHER DIE NOW! were intense to the point of pain.<br /><br />These concepts are as tricky to get over as trying to pick up mercury with bare hands.<br /><br />Caroline xxxCarolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133031265351841626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2448752251053894818.post-43406733760787852652010-09-27T11:57:14.986+01:002010-09-27T11:57:14.986+01:00It's not an easy question to answer is it?
Mo...It's not an easy question to answer is it?<br /><br />Most people I told came back with 'but you like cars and bikes' (always got a good reaction, but there was always that question mark).<br /><br />I can't say more than I know I am, because I know I am.<br /><br />StaceStacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2448752251053894818.post-17562521765322547172010-09-27T10:44:04.211+01:002010-09-27T10:44:04.211+01:00It all gives me a headache...
After agonising (re...It all gives me a headache...<br /><br />After agonising (really) for a long while on this issue, and trying to come up with a trumping reason for others as to why I do not personally relate to the things THEY feel are "essential" to identifying as female, I am left with the words of an old Rick Nelson song...<br /><br />"But it's all right now, <br />I've learned my lesson well.<br />You see, you can't please everyone, <br />so you've got to please yourself".<br /><br />You are woman who draws, rides a push bike, does adventurous things in water and gets oily mending a Moggie Minor. No explanation needed.<br /><br />Hugs<br />chrissie<br />xxxxchrissieBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495222190059079697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2448752251053894818.post-6070377316604166772010-09-27T10:29:39.076+01:002010-09-27T10:29:39.076+01:00Yes, sadly some are going to use Cordelia Fine'...Yes, sadly some are going to use Cordelia Fine's book to confirm their prejudices. We should all read it ASAP so that we can at least respond to discussions about it by saying "unlike you I have read the book"! I have my own thoughts about what constitutes sex and gender, and perhaps stronger thoughts (given the social and biological complexities) about those who consider they have it all figured out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com